The quilting issues are a no-brainer. The nights in a company paid hotel, eating out, stress free meals, that's called Keeping the Romance Alive in Your Marriage. Pack your prettiest nightie that you won't be sleeping in and GO. Remember when going to bed with him was the most exciting thing in the whole wide world? Rekindle, rekindle, rekindle.
Fake, Fake, Fake if you have to. He IS your MOST IMPORTANT PERSON and he has that laughable male ego. Go feed it!