Originally Posted by purrfectquilts
Wow I surely feel your pain and am so sorry you had to go through this. But, I agree with those that said what goes around comes around. It often does.
Over the many years of my life I gave my mother a lot of things. And so did my dad. She gave every single one away. I asked my dad once why he kept buying her a watch for Christmas knowing she was going to give it away shortly thereafter. His answer was that it wouldn't matter what it was.
Another example: I crocheted an afghan for her in colors that matched her room where she liked to sit in a recliner and listen to the radio. She gave it to my brother and said she had it made especially for him. I tried to explain to him but he did not believe me.
Anything of value or family history was given to my brother or others. But, I still took care of her at the end of her life and can sleep easily at night knowing I did the right thing.
A sweet Christian friend, now deceased, once told me, "This too shall pass." I didn't quite understand that at first, but as time went on, it became a great comfort to me to think of that.
So, I pass those words on to you along with a hug for you and your sister.
Sounds like our mothers could be twins! I am her caretaker now and if she has something she thinks I would like she will give it to anyone else. It was always that way and it used to hurt but doesn't anymore. I thought I was over letting her hurt me but when she told me about the quilt and knew my sister wanted it, I was on my knees. I am about over it now...there is too much sadness in the world to let this be a real issue. I am nearly 10 years older than my sister and I have always taken care of her when she needed help. We had so much fun making that quilt and we will just have to remember and enjoy that time we spent together. My MIL used to say "This too shall pass!" I do think of it often. Most people think my mother is so sweet but my MIL picked up on her on their first meeting. I think of her so often and miss her. My grandmother always told me God never gave us a load to heavy to handle and she always tried to make things nice with my mother (her dil). I feel like I have been through a therapy session and I thank all of the board that has listened and cared. I am a very lucky woman and I have a wonderful family and life. Memories of my GM and MIL are always with me and their love and wisdom is there for me. Thanks again to all of you.