I hate to tell you, but she may not change. I am 76, My sister is 84. She hasn't spoken to me in six years since I didn't follow her instructions and change plans we already had in order to do something she felt we should do. She was always rather domineering, but the older she got the worse it got. From what other members of the family has said she gotten any better in those six years. She lives half way across the country from me. I am the only one that no longer lives in the mid west. Some times I am very thankful for that. My church family in Illinois mean more to me. They are great people. Of course, can't see them very much, but when we do, it is like we have never been apart.