Nancia, I tried everything to be polite with her, but I guess you can't please everyone all the time. I told her aside that I was watching my weight I wanted to lose 10 pounds she laughed at me and said I was joking,then she said something that surprised me - she said have fun, eat the great looking cake and then do like she does purge/flush her system when she gets home - that comment scared me I didn't know what to say to her, but thanks for the advice I will do your trick the next time. (if she even invites me next yr lol)