I sure hope you have found your crumbs--my MIL wasn't that way but my mom was and it was just to put me down and be nosey--once we lived 18 miles from town and 63 miles from a big grocery store out on a ranch-welll my mom, dad and a couple of my sisters were coming to stay a few days-so I had cooked up alot of food and had ref. full. I was gone all afternoon due to I did all the kids school parties and when I got back my mom had cleaned my ref and thrown most of the food out to my chickens!!!!! Lucky for her I had a deep freeze--to this day I get steamed up thinking about it!