First of all- you said you have to keep quite until your the perfect wife----- raise your voice. You are!! Your married to the son not the MIL.
I have came to the conclusion that I will never be the perfect wife -- in the in-laws eyes, even if I have been married 22+ years.
Ask her if she took them to make you a special quilt as you have looked all over and can not find your crumbs.