I feel you pain. My husband let my exDIL clean the house while I was in Europe (I had told him many times to stay out of my sewing room). She cleaned (??) the sewing room of all of my bag of scraps. I couldn't even go up there for about 2 weeks after I got back, everytime I looked up there, I would start crying. Can't say anything to her because of the grands, so I just fume, quietly. I can't find patterns, fabric, and books. No one can decide was is important to you. She also cleaned off my computer desk and the desk in the kitchen. I can't find my IRS reports for the last several years, I had a stack of papers to file and they are gone ?? somewhere. She stuck things everywhere and anywhere. Needless to say, it took all I had to not do away with my DH. However, I would think she would known better, too. But thinking back she doesn't have a lot of snap. Sorry about the long vent, but I can't do it here. And I am working on letting it go.