Interesting thread - - -
Is it a kindness to tell someone what he/she wants to hear instead of telling the person what he/she needs/should hear?
Some examples from on this board:
Someone posts a thread and seems to be saying "I did this wrong - I know it should be changed - it will bother me if I don't - - but I'm wondering if I can get by without fixing it" and many people say "Oh, it's just fine the way it is."
Is it really doing the asker a favor or kindness to say that something that is bothering him/her is okay to leave "as is"?
I'm not talking about unsolicited pointing out of "inadvertent design changes" that it's too late to easily fix.
If I put on something inappropriate before leaving the house - please tell me BEFORE we go out the door. I may not "like" the information - but I would much prefer to hear it then, than when we are in the car and half-way to our destination!!