Originally Posted by sewwhat85
imho there is a difference in honesty and and being cruel i believe that in a friendship you can be honest in a loving and kind way. If i think what I am going to say may damage the friendship I would not say it or would try to say it in a different way. It all depends on the value of the friendship.It just like your mom used to tell you if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.
I have/had two BFF. One [who has, passed] I could be brutally honest with and her with me ... altho there was still tact. The one who has been my BFF for 50 years, I have to use much more tact. I do not want to ever hurt her feelings. Oops! I don't mean I would intentionally hurt the feelings of deceased BFF. There is just a different 'value' as stated by sewwhat85. Every friend has a special quality and if they are a valued friend, one treats them special. Whoa! This could get deep. Better stop now.