My oldest son came into my life around his 12th birthday. He came to live with me when he was 13, although never through "the system", but he's been mine every since.... He's 24 years old now. I can't imagine life without him, he's as much to me as any of my other children. He has blessed me with his beautiful daughter and girlfriend. When this young man is old enough to make a decision, if he feels the placement is wrong, he may ask to come back to you. Just make sure he knows how and where to find you.