I can understand how you feel. My girlfriends put their quilts in the county fair one year and ended up terribly upset. They had comments about their bindings and even one of their quilt was told that it really wasn't a quilt. (It was a ragtime quilt). The judges pinned the comments on their quilts and everyone who viewed the quilts could see the comments.
Don't let the judges' comments stop you from showing. Do it proudly. Us quilters, our family and friends think they are great!!!!