Henry,
Sorry you had to go through all that craziness. The way some people respond to a death is absolutely ridiculous. I am a retired RN and have seen lots of craziness that revolved around a death in the family. The one that had me stopped in my tracks and mouth hung open was when three sisters were fighting over who was going to hold mama right after she died. That was 20 years ago and is still vivid in my mind.
Things will get better. And right now you need rest and sleeping is the best way to do that. Hiding out and being alone for a while is a good way to cope with some of the things that have happened in your life recently. We will look for you back here soon and for pics of all those projects you plan and carry to fruition.