It amazes me how people can do something like this and think it's alright! When my husband passed, the insurance man brought me a sizable check which was for my future. He then whines that he misses his wife and baby back in Turkey and if I would invest that money in his company he would be able to go see them. Needless to say, I called his superiors and he was transferred to another state. That still wasn't enough to justify his nerve! I'm so sorry for your loss. During that time you aren't sure which way to turn but I'm glad you were smart enough to see it. Be very careful - widows are targets. It took me awhile to smarten up and learn to say NO. Trust and love yourself and pay close attention to your instincts; they're usually right. God bless. Lynda