I think the problem is that you're stitching in the ditch. I personally don't like SID because you can't see the quilting. I am finishing a quilt that a woman started many yrs ago. She did SID in some areas and i have to look real close to see where she's quilted. The areas that she came away from the seam a smidge is easier to see the quilting. I also come in a smidge from seams and you can always see my quilting. This quilt has what looks to be a baby's flannel sheet as the batting - therefore - no loft there!! It'll be a light-weight quilt, but you can definitely tell that it's been quilted.