I would help her make it, and I would do all I could to make it perfect for her. I have to say, my ex and I are very good friends, and we were not friends when we divorced. But, we had two lovely children and they loved us both. Even though he was a jerk and cheated on me, and left me for another woman, today I can say, he is a great friend. I want to add, that one of my daughters greatest memories was when she graduated from High School, and out in the audience, sat her Mom and Step Dad, and right next to us, was her Dad and Step Mom, and her grandparents (from her Dad's side). She told me later that all the other kids had to keep looking all over, in different areas to find their families, and all she had to do was look in one spot..and we were all there. Now all these years later, and we have grandchildren, and every year my ex and his gf fly in for Christmas. We spend Christmas morning together watching our grandchildren, and we have a wonderful Christmas dinner together. It has been worth it to me, and to him, to remain close all these years, for our children and now our grandkids.
So about that quilt, I would get right on it : )