It sounds like the q-snap frame is your primary issue. Either don't use a hoop at all or go to JoAnn's fabrics and get a round or oval 14" frame. They are dirt cheap there. It's all I use. So much better than big $$ for some other frames. Use the stab-stich (one stitch at a time) method until you become more comfortable. You will eventually develop a callous on your 'under' finger. Until then, blood loss is inevitable. Even after, sometimes. I usa Roxanne needles and a Thimblelady stainless steel thimble. Get one of the plastic ones first to see if that works for you. You push with the pad of your finger with them instead of the tip...might be better for you. I also like her needles - they are longer and sometimes easier to manage but it depends on your batting...IMO. I use Warm & Natural batting so not so much. So the Roxanne's work better for me. I hate John James needles. Can't use them. But it's personal preference. You WILL find what works for you.