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If it were me, and my daughter had asked me, I would tell her to pick out a beginner pattern and I will help her any way I could. However, I would let her know that she would be the one who should make it so it would be from her. I would also let her know that I was sure they wouldn't want something made by me but would treasure what she had made for them.

Let me tell you a quick story. My ex was very abusive. He never helped with the children financially or physically after we divorced. When my daughter was 36 years old, she was scheduled for her 2nd cancer surgery. I wanted to be there with her (700 miles away). When she told me her Dad (she had developed a once in a while relationship with him about 3 years before) was going to be there, I told her I couldn't be there if he was there. I "HATED" him so much for what he had done to me. I asked my Bible study group to pray for me in this situation. I decided to go but finding the money would be difficult. The leader of my group gave her frequent flier miles and I went. Everything was absolutely wonderful and he even asked me to forgive him. He has since dropped out of the picture again and my daughter is now an 11 year survivor. Things always work out well in the long run.