The best gift that my Mom ever gave me was allowing me to have my own relationship w/ my dad based on my own experiences, not clouded by her feelings towards this man that she divorced. This isn't about you making a quilt for your ex - it's about helping your daughter do something for HER dad. He may be your ex-husband, but he will always be HER dad. I encourage you to take the high road, teach your daughter how to make this quilt. If she is young, she doesn't understand all the grown-up stuff that goes on w/ divorce. Maybe the way you accomplish that is to sign her up for a class and you two work on the project.