There are a lot of different opinions here. Maybe some new wives might appreciate an ex making a quilt for her and her new hubby. I can 100% guarantee you that my ex's wife would have thrown it in the trash if she thought I made it or helped. Think of all the hard work. I like the idea of your DD taking a class and making it there with no help from you. The two of you can find many other projects to work on as mother/daughter. This is not one I would recommend.