Even gradkids don't remember you for your expensive gifts. I had one set of wealthy and one set of expremely poor grandparents. I got very nice gifts from the wealthy set, but not personal attention. The other set always gave me a box of chocolate cover cherries. But it was given with a big hug and kisses and to this very day chocolate covered cherries mean Christmas to me. So don't underestimate the understanding of kids. Everyone knows who loves them. And congratulations on your wonderful quilting find.