Onalee, no- you are not out of line. Let me explain my thinking... my brother was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 4 yrs ago and he depended on me to go with him and his wife to the doctors and things that they needed help with around the house... or to sit with him while his wife worked. They lived 2 hours away and between working myself and driving to him constantly took a toll on me. I understand very well what Marty is going through and I understand even more what Lori is going through trying to be there for Marty. At the time this is the decision I made and I am sure I would do it again. God bless you Lori and for anyone else on this board that is taking care of a freind or relative. I feel I am a much better person for the things my brother taught me during his struggle.
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onaemtnest
Hi Karen....I may be out of line here, and you didn't ask for advice....but I think Lori should be notified when people don't follow the guidelines. I agree with your kindness in not wanting to burden Lori with this. But if we aren't forthright in telling her she'll never know and won't have the option of correcting wrong behavior.
It might be that your SP didn't realize that it was a guideline to send a thank-you....the SP should have had the manners without the guidelines but bottom line....JMHO here, the basic guidelines are simple enough. Should a partner not follow through, Lori can contact that SP and ask them to follow through and should they continue to abuse the guidelines, I don't think they should be allowed to participate in this GREAT SWAP.