Oh I am in the same situation. The gent in my life is down on funds. Well, I have a little something for him and I don't expect anything in return. I would rather bills be taken care of. But I did ask for his help around the house sometime after Christmas helping me get my house organized. Like clearing out closets, getting the basement organized. Actually, it gives me peace of mind knowing his bills will be paid, small presents bought for children & grandchildren and I get help around this house. Give him the quilt and then just ask (or not, your choice) for some plain old help.