The only reason I said don't give him the quilt is because it made me sad that he gets to decide that there will be no Christmas gifts this year. It sounds like he didn't even discuss it with the OP. I got the distinct impression from the OP's post that her husband doesn't do a lot of gift giving and he would rather not be bothered and this was just his way of getting out of trying to think of something to get for her. I feel sorry for her.