i've made tons of baby quilts over the years- some a mom to be told me what (theme) her nursery was going to be- i went from there- some a grandmother to be brought me fabric- some i just heard so & so is expecting---and first i found out if she planned to find out ahead of time (what) she was having---if so i would wait for the (verdict) then make a quilt- if she was not going to find out then i would make one more appropriate for either-
i don't quite understand this---i've in 35 years never seen this happen---most of the girls i know when they are 2 or 3 are using their quilts for their (baby dolls) some keep their baby blankets forever
(The main reason I don't use baby prints is I don't want the girls rejecting the quilt when they're two or three because it's "too baby" for them now.
that being said- unless a parent request something very 'baby-ish' i use kid's prints that grow with the child---not so much really baby-ish...but i can think of 6 or 7 adults who still have their (baby quilts) tucked away---even if at some point they decide they are too old for them- after a while they go back to them--cherish them. i have a brother in law (in his 40s') who's baby quilt was a security blanket that went to school with him---went to college with him- he's not (baby-ish) or unmanly---he is very masculine- married 2 kids- an engineer---and keeps that old rag in a dresser drawer---
my daughter (35) still has the one i made her while pregnant---pretty worn & faded---it's been dragged around-used & abused for 35 years-it was one she would throw fits over if we left the house without it.
make baby quilts to be used---babies spit up & among other things---it needs to be washable-dryable * durable---and it will be much loved for many many years-and possibly multi=generational