I remember when I was a little bitty thing & my mom made me a quilt for my & my sisters bed. I always wanted to put it on the bed with the backing showing. I didn't want anyone to see the "patches". She Lways used beautiful fabric for the backs. She never ever commented on it. It took me until I was about 12 & l was learning to piece quilts that I realized the work involved. So maybe they will realize that it takes time & effort at some point. When I did realize this, I felt really bad.