oh been there gal! mine planned his exit knowing I never touched the checkbook cept to go to the grocery. he had been writing checks to "cash" for almost a year. when he left they had an apt all ready to move in to. notice I said they. but it's been 10 years so . . .enjoy your family for the holidays dear and no worries. make a shroud from our fabric to hide the body. lol oh sorry that wasn't nice.