The bottom line is "A Lot of People Don't Handle Christmas Very Well!!!". Christmas and families and situations are not merry and wonderful for everyone. You are not the only one feeling ho hum or worse about the Christmas season. We can't have the Christmas from yesterday and all we can have is the present one. Just try and focus on a few simple things and know that December 26th will come whether you were jolly on the 25th or not. If this year's traditions are not working for you, plan on some new ones for next year. My friend used to loathe and stress greatly about the traditional Christmas dinner. Now they do Chinese take-out and she is liking Christmas a whole lot better. You can celebrate in simpler and more meaningful ways. Good luck with all of this.