We have a deal with our kids, no gifts, spend the money on your children. Well they do not listen well, but they do not buy us things, they make us cookies, fudge, and just a big box of goodies, and we get gift cards so that we are able to go out to dinner, so something nice like that. If we want it, we usually just buy it, so no need to spend their money on us, for stuff. I just wish they would listen completely though.