I solved the problem this year. I have given all my grandchildren quilts. I let them choose the colors, if they want, they could also choose the pattern. But they usually trust me to do that. But this year, I decided to make quilts in the name of each family member and then donate them to charity. I took a picture of each quilt, printed it on the front of a blank card, inside I told them where it was donated to, and also printed on the top part of the card a little bit about the organization and its goals. My family are all very lucky that they don't need anything, so they were thrilled with this gesture. It solved lots of problems in every direction. I plan to do this next year too. In return, my daughter donated money to my favorite animal shelter in my name.