I donated a quilt to be raffled and when you do a raffle, really you have no control or should have over what the winner does with the quilt. Any of the quilters who worked on that would surely understand,after all you are a quilter yourself and have many quilts to use. I think sometimes God gives us things in life to use for the right reasons. You have illness in your family, you are elderly and I am sure he would rather you put the money to good use for you and your husband. Good luck with the sale of this quilt, and just keep buying raffle tickets to help out the organizations that need help.