I was fortunate to win the MIL lottery. She was so wonderful to me -- never criticized me, never said a bad word to me. She even chewed out DH one time (she absolutely blasted him) because she didn't think he was treating me well enough. She never treated me like an "in law", I was her daughter. I will be trying to follow her example when my sons eventually get married. I wish everyone could have a MIL like mine.