When I first start FMQ, I purchased the gloves from Fons & Porter and they worked great! However, I have since found that the "finger grippers" work best for me (bought them from Connecting Threads and I'm am sure other places sell them as well). Just like everyone else states, practice, practice, practice!
Remember not to be so hard on yourself in the beginning because you'll get better as you go along. Good luck and post pics of your progress!