I had a wonderful MIL. She was great to me and I still miss her. My thorn in my side is my SIL. She is a diva. If everything isn't revolving around her she starts a fight so it will. After 15 years of never seeing them for any holiday ( except a two hour visit on Christmas Eve ) she now wants to have more holidays with us. It turns out her sisters had a family meeting with her and told her to change her attitude or not come to the family gatherings. So now she is disrupting ours with her nasty comments and efforts to start fights. Oh well, we just ignore her. We aren't going to wreck our family times just to satisfy her need for attention.