Shirley,
I had a thought... and it would take some support from Patrice... since there is no activity pages anymore where you can get in and edit, but instead we have the group pages where you have to make a new post for any changes... maybe on the monthly here's your partner post you could add a * next to those who are open to additional swaps or something. then, maybe we could have a spot on our profile where we can list current themes... that way we can change them as we please, and it takes a bit of the pressure off of you.... but then again, that doesn't give a list of themes either...