I can name 6 boys that had immature bowels. One was about 7 when he was able to get to the bathroom on time, the others between 4 and 5. Four were breastfed, the other 2 brothers were not, but they had feeding issues as infants and were on soy milk until eventually went to cows milk. Seemed the diet was changed many times to weed out what the issues were, but indeed an elderly pediatrician told the parents to not worry about it, no fussing, no drawing negative attention to it. There was no proof the diet had anything to do with it. It is more common in boys. Much praise with a smile on the face. Rewards didn't have to be candy or toys, but a day at the park, or helping mommy make cookies, etc. Eventually, the boys (three families) never had a problem with friends or nasty remarks or playing by themselves because of it. This probably had a lot to do with the parents relaxing about the issue. The teachers were a part of what was happening physically to the boys. They understood. This takes time. It will happen as nature meant it to be and hopefully there are no major underlying medical issues. I know. The 2 brothers are my sons, one is my nephew, and the other 3 brothers are very good friends of ours. Five are mature healthy adults with no lasting side effects, and one is a happy, well adjusted, cool 3rd grader. Best wishes to all of you. I pray everyone can remain calm, and keep tension at bay. Because that is the key.