This is often a very emotionally charged topic. I've seen people equally passionate about both techniques.
I prefer hand quilting myself, because I love the process and it is very calming to me. However, I have been steadily improving my free-motion machine skills on my old Bernina Record 830 over the last couple of years, and am awed by machine work at each show I attend.
Here's a suggestion:
Since you do have that wonderful quilt frame, why not teach your hubby to hand quilt and then BOTH of you sit down at the frame a couple of times a week TOGETHER? It's a good compromise, and a way to get some quality bonding time in as well.