I've been thinking about my response & how fast I reacted. First; My DMIL has alzheimer's & I know how hard that can be. I know that your DH is responding to some of the feelings he is experiencing. If my DMIL had done anything crafty either my DH or I would have been tempted ta do something like that to feel close to her. DMIL doesn't know any of us anymore. I go & do her hair almost every day, 'cause that was something that she liked. Sometimes she doesn't even like that anymore. Maybe you can find another way to honor her. As I said in my earlier post only you should decide of you want ta hand quilt.