There is a lot more going on here than can ever be resolved by a survey. Sounds very much like a control issue on his part. You have to want to do it, not just be willing to do it and certainly not be intimidated into doing it. The choice is entirely up to you. Not a bunch of cyber quilters, not your DH, not your MIL...just you and you alone. You will gain absolutely nothing if you quilt it out of guilt. Wishing you all the best.