If I ASKED him to make the cherry frame, I would put this quilt on it. It may take years to finish, might even be part of my estate when I die, unfinished, but it would show him that I appreciated it.
Then, I would show him the responses from people like me, who do not hand quilt.
I guess I did, once. I finished a maple leaf quilt that my husband's grandmother left, but I used the 'big stitch' all I could commit to.
If I did NOT ask him to make it, and he did so out of the kindness of his heart, then, I don't know. That's a tough one. Maybe put it in the frame and show him online that men are quilting now too.