Update
Thanks for all the help and support. I guess I had my first quilting crisis - had to happen. I also raise orchids and the saying is you aren't an orchid hobbyist until you have killed 100 orchids!
I will run out and get some oxyclean for next time. What an ordeal! I scrubbed it threes times - finally with bleach and it lightened but you can still see the marks so I'll just have to embroider some vines on it. Can't subject it to any more washing or I'll destroy the silk ribbon. For picture, see posting above "Washable graphite pencil...Update"