Wow what a compelling question, with great responses from both sides of the fence! After reading all the responses up to this point, I agree that once a gift is given it's no longer ours. However, reading your original post I think your heart's desire is to know what has happened to the quilt and that you'd like to put a label on it. In the end I would suggest you follow your heart and ask your cousin, yet be indeed prepared should you find that it's no longer in the family.
Last edited by onaemtnest; 03-07-2012 at 09:23 AM.