I feel your pain. Personally I would not make an issue of doing what we have always done. I don't send to charity what I would not use myself or give to a family member. I think I would do my own quilts with stash or scraps I had on hand. I'm Sure your could drum up batting, flannel, etc and backings and have a finished "gift" that you would feel proud of. I don't have a problem with tying the quilts either. It is a good way to complete a quilt quickly. Just my opinion but I would encourage the group and do my own thing. Just a thought