This is so hard because ladies can get set in their ways. Know this is a different situation but similar. When we moved I volunteered to help for some church funerals when I wasn't working. So the elder ladies gave me the job of cutting carrots and I couldn't even do that right. Tried to cut them the way they told but unfortunately there were too many chiefs and I couldn't please anyone. So for me I ended up not volunteering, didn't need the stress. So now I do a few things on my own for the church. But this could be a suggestion for you to make a quilt and donate it so you are still part of the group.