Why did you think about making a quilt for them to begin with? If it was something your heart told you to do then do it NO MATTER what you think they will or will not feel or treat the quilt.
You never know what will trigger something in another person...it might take months or years but you need to act on that small voice.
I taught my SIL how to knit I only knew the basics but I spent maybe 2 hours and then a couple mins another day showing her how to get started. She has become a GREAT knitter but it also was the one thing that truely binded her and I together. I never knew about that for years later and a messy Divorce but as I said she is my SIL and will always be.