I have BOTH my sp boxes about 1/2 full. Trying to think of
something to make for them. One person will be easy to
make for the other more difficult.
I totally agree that it is BEYOND rude to RSVP to anything
than not show up.
But I am not a nice person, I would let my TRUE feelings/thoughts
be KNOWN to those people. And I would be RUDE about it. Like
I said I am not a nice person about things like that
I had a friend who this happened to only it was to a 40th Anniversary
SURPRISE party, 250 people were invited everyone showed up EXCEPT
for anyone in the family (INCLUDING their kids and grandkids).
The only attendees was friends.
That year for Christmas the couple only gave their family cards with
a "mass" family letter. No presents nothing, they didn't even have
a family gathering. The couple proceeded to take their 10 closest friends
to a special dinner and made sure that pictures were taken.
The excuse that the family gave if wasn't a BIG "milestone" anniversary
in their minds 40 years together meant nothing. They lost all respect for
their family because of their attitudes.