I'm a new quilter, old hobbiest, but now that I am spending a lot of time, money and love on these beautiful, creations to give away, I make sure my recipient knows I am making it. I involve them by asking questions about color choices, theme, size, etc. If I don't get good feedback, I would drop it and move on to a gift cert. or something I suppose. I say suppose, because I have six quilts in the making, and not one person has rejected my efforts in the slightest, thank goodness. They actually get really excited, especially when they get a an e-mailed picture of the fabrics lined up on my table, right before the cutting starts. But then not another peek until completely done, that's the surprise.
I get such a high from quilting, if I couldn't give to those I know, I would give to those in need and keep that great feeling. Keep sewing, stay happy.