You won't be guilt free until you tell him but I think your reasoning is all wrong. Doesn't he spend for tools or toys for his favorite things to do? Not sure why he questions your spending but really think if you can make a word picture for him about your not questioning his spending on lawn equipment or hobbies....See where I'm going? Is he unreasonable with you and/or are you unreasonable with him? Doesn't seem to work well if you don't allow for each other to enjoy some personal tools/toys. Our money is ours whether he earns it or I do but we don't spend excessive amounts without talking to each other. Can't imagine him telling me 'no' to something I really wanted if we could afford it without causing a strain. Hope you get this resolved soon. Guilt is awful to live with.
