Icon17, did you make sure that it was lightweight. The first appliques I did I didnt know that there was a difference and talk about stiff. Good thing that they were meant for a wall hanging so it didnt matter much. I recently tried HeatnBond Lite and that is better but still you can feel that something is there. Most should get a little softer when washed but I havent washed any of mine yet to know just how much. I have been told by alot of the members here on the board to try Wonder Under and make sure I get the lightweight stuff. Havent had time. I know that this probably doesnt help much but youre not the only one that has had this problem.