My husband had high expectaions as well to start with and he soon learned that if he wanted it like that he better get to work. He does his fair share now. Sometimes even some of my share if I am up to my eyeballs in sewing and quilting. I rarely cook, usually only when he is gone. He even helps in the sewing room. He even does some of my pressing while I am quilting. I never lived in a spotless house. It was clean underneith but was always cluttered with life.