Jenniky - Thank you for your service! I'm so sorry you are in pain. Life w/pain is drainin'. I hope ya git the home o' your dreams.
I too have an awesome DH who does most o' the chores here. I do the laundry, but that's about all. He's also the only one who provides the income. Youngest DSon is still at home. He is 19 & goin' ta the community college. He does a few chores & has his own job. I will say that as DH's Dad was dieing & his DM was slipping deeper into alzhimers, I was spending 10 - 12 hours a day taking care o' 'em. That's when DH took over the chores. (I also lost my Dad 10 days before DFIL died.) Even after 3 years, we are all in mourning still.